The Dating Project

Dating with a view to marriage is no other thing than work. I am a writer in New York, but Sex & the City this ain’t. Carrie had friends who weren’t repopulating the planet. She had fancy shoes. I have fuzzy Crocs. I get commuter rail and Brooklyn birthday parties. She got limos and glam soirées. I actually exist.

This is a project and it is a schlep. I used to believe in surgical strikes, now I’m carpet bombing. I’m on three different dating websites. I ask total strangers if they know anyone single because I have dated the pool of my friends’ friends’ friends dry.

Somewhere, someone is going to make me laugh and swoon. I haven’t met him yet. I’m trying.

I hope it will end. Happily.

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The Patient

Sarah attempts another blind date, this time with a best-selling author who stiffs Sarah with a hefty tab and an uncomfortably long night.... More

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The Playwright, Again

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Wedding Announcement

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The Doctor

The grand unified theory of matchmaking states: If someone else is the friend, you are the favor. I don’t care. I take referrals.... More

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The Captain

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The Economist, Part 3

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The Economist, Part 2

Hair washed, giddy about date number two with The Economist, I was applying my date face when I got an email in the late afternoon:... More

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