The Dating Project

Dating with a view to marriage is no other thing than work. I am a writer in New York, but Sex & the City this ain’t. Carrie had friends who weren’t repopulating the planet. She had fancy shoes. I have fuzzy Crocs. I get commuter rail and Brooklyn birthday parties. She got limos and glam soirées. I actually exist.

This is a project and it is a schlep. I used to believe in surgical strikes, now I’m carpet bombing. I’m on three different dating websites. I ask total strangers if they know anyone single because I have dated the pool of my friends’ friends’ friends dry.

Somewhere, someone is going to make me laugh and swoon. I haven’t met him yet. I’m trying.

I hope it will end. Happily.

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The Improper Assignation

He wanted to have dinner and I thought nothing of it. We’re old friends. But it was everything like a date–the best I'd had in years.... More

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The Captain

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The Economist, Part 3

After standing Sarah up on their second date, the Economist sends another surprising email: I'm flattered. I like you. But I can't.... More

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Hair washed, giddy about date number two with The Economist, I was applying my date face when I got an email in the late afternoon:... More

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The Composer has all the qualities I seek–funny, generous, blue eyes, Jewish–except that he's married to a man. ... More

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The Martian, Part 1

Sarah meets a would-be suitor she's profiling for a magazine, but can she really mix business with pleasure? ... More

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Mr. Blue

Sarah learns that if there's one thing you should never do when you're feeling "blue"–it's date. If only the man she met on a recent... More

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The Intellectual

When a journalist friend said that his tall, Midwestern, funny Jewish buddy was in town and I should meet him, I said yes. I hadn’t... More

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The Flying Dutchman

We met at a charity event. We exchanged numbers. That’s the way it’s supposed to work–no set-up, no Internet, no middleman. If only we'd spoken... More

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