When is it okay to “regift” an unwanted present? —Naughty in Florida
You’re certainly not alone in your desire to find a new home for your coffee-table books and unused candles, but there are rules to regifting. Or one big rule, rather: Make absolutely sure your creative gift recycling won’t make it back to the original giver. So, regift only in discrete social circles to avoid hard feelings. The practice of regifting might feel dishonest, but life is too short to beat yourself up over some unwanted trinkets. Regift away!
Does anyone still send thank-you cards? It feels as though I might be the only one doing it these days. —Behind the Times in Minnesota
This depends entirely on the gift-giver. Traditional types will be delighted to receive a thank-you in the mail (and they might feel slighted in its absence), but plenty of people are okay with a phone call instead. (An email or text won’t do under any circumstance.) The split is generational, though it’s difficult to pinpoint the break in gratitudinal doctrine. If in doubt, send the dang card (and call a week later to make sure they received it).
The Manners Guy is a former bartender who knows his way around awkward social situations. Send your questions to [email protected].
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